Bad me, really. Today I uttered the awful sentence, “Whatever. Doesn’t matter”. The self pity and irreverence drips off of this one. It does nothing but dismiss, ignore and foster bad feelings.

If accepted, the “whatever” which is a very important “whatever”, festers, propagates, multiplies, germinates…inside of you. In short, it grows and sooner or later it explodes out of you.

If rejected, this whatever is a tool to cause distance, to guard the inevitably vulnerable self that we expose when we love.

But instead of lashing out with the easy phrase of “whatever” take a second (heck even minute) to re-iterate, repeat and try again. Lovingly. Chances are that what caused you to recoil into a “whatever” never came from a bad loveless place.

Don’t act like a dog in a corner, there’s no need to bite.